Comments on: Teenage Flare-Ups: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference

By: Benji

Benji — Mon, 19 Aug 2019 04:44:50 +0000

I’m a fourteen-year-old on this website because I honestly thought that I’m just an idiot for being the way I am to my parents. I really do find this article very helpful and it makes me feel better about the fact that I behave the way I do. It makes it feel more like I’m not strange or different, I’m just pretty normal. I would love to show these articles to my parents and try to explain with them all of these things, by I’m sure all they would do is say that this is not how it really works and that I need to do precisely what they say when they say it and that I need to it because I’m the child and I’m “nowhere near equal”. And I do really misread my parents a lot too, it’s really something we do to each other. When my mother asks that I do something, it sometimes just feels kinda threatening or bossy (Maybe threatening isn’t the best word but oh well.), I start to fight back and it only gets worse from there. But then there are other times when she’s saying that I have an attitude, I really am not trying to, it’s just how I speak. She always says she would never do the things I do and it just gets annoying, my grandmother even said she liked to argue back to them when she was my age, she just won’t admit it. Anyway, I’ll stop randomly complaining now. Have a great day/night! 🙂

By: Karen Young

Karen Young — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 03:29:28 +0000

In reply to Rose. They are lucky to have you.

By: Rose

Rose — Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:25:07 +0000

In reply to Grandma Jan. I am 70 and raiding a 14 yr old grand daughter and an 8 yr old grandson. Both have adhd and he is being evaluated for autism. It is a daunting task each and everyday!

By: Karen Young

Karen Young — Sat, 17 Mar 2018 05:27:43 +0000

In reply to Riley M. Riley what you are describing is very normal. It sounds as though your parents are intending one thing, and you are reading another. Something that can help is giving them the opportunity to let you know how they really feel about you.

By: Riley M

Riley M — Wed, 07 Mar 2018 14:38:50 +0000

i’m sort of 13 and i was just searching random stuff and i read this and i did notice my parents telling me that I’ m misreading them.I thought they were not accepting that they do feel that I’m not good enough

By: Geetanjali

Geetanjali — Thu, 01 Mar 2018 13:10:59 +0000

Nailed it! god bless you

By: Natalie

Natalie — Fri, 20 Oct 2017 00:29:42 +0000

Thank you so much for this article. We have 2 boys 14 and 16 and are very much in the thick of all you just described. When reading #8 it was like you had sat there and listened to one of the conversations I have with Mr 16. It was so funny to read. You have given us a really easy to understand insight and I have sent this to my husband. I know I will be using your techniques to help communicate, and now I understand much better why they react the way they do. Brilliant article, thank you again.

By: Beccs

Beccs — Tue, 17 Oct 2017 05:16:50 +0000

I love your work. I just googled step parent and can’t just stop reading other articles. They ate so so relevant.

I have handled teenagers as a teacher without really reading some of these articles but I think I have been doing right because most times even when we fall out, they later realise they were just too childish in their reactions towards my tutelage.

I still make them realise that despite their odd attitude I still love them and that i have gone throygh such emotional imbalace associated with teenage years.

That in itself makes them feel better and they readily appilogise for their childish behaviours.

Thanks a billion for this article and more.

By: suzanne

suzanne — Wed, 26 Apr 2017 00:34:32 +0000

In reply to Ciara.

this was amazing. i was laughing my head off a few times………hasnt been as much of that lately. LOL thank you 58 with 14 yr old

By: mumto3

mumto3 — Sun, 19 Feb 2017 14:19:52 +0000

In reply to Karen - Hey Sigmund. Thank you for the link and wise words. I have already reacted differently to how I would have done, before reading this article and home life has been quite harmonious today! I will read this link with great interest. Thanks again.